On eighth of March, all our posts, messages start with celebration of Women’s day. I am sure if we are not in the habit of forwarding messages, we might have gotten one in the different groups that we are on the social media, be it WhatsApp, Viber, Facebook. The quotes shared are strong and the messages are beautiful. There is depth in the words and as we read, there is a different level of accolade in our minds. Some of us tend to ignore it while some of us love the fact that we celebrate this day and some of us are happy that it is a public holiday, a day off from work.
It is interesting to see various campaigns and events happening around different parts of the world but at the same time there are so many instances wherein we withhold women. It could be towards their right, on their thoughts and opinion, on their freedom. Some examples that I am going to list could be the ones that I have seen around me, in the Asian society, but these still prevail.
The fact that the family should have a boy child is prevalent in many homes and the daughter in law if not pressurized for another child, are still not spoken well of. Instead of rejoicing the capability of bearing a child and taking care of it for nine months in the womb, we are still under the impression that the girl child is ultimately going to leave the house and there would be no one to carry forward the family tree. Why cannot the daughters in the family lead it? This is during birth, the same perception lies when a person dies. How sons are accounted for during many rituals, and these are by default. It is heart – wrenching to know that daughters are not allowed during the last rites of their father, let go the scenario of doing it by themselves. How different does the society, treat a boy and a girl, of the person who loved them equally.
Similarly, the differentiation in attire, every day attributes that a women goes through when she is married and when she loses, her spouse is not correct. Her marital status should not affect the participation in the ceremonies, the respect, the inclusion on different other activities in the social order. This is where we need to change completely, not just with our views but also with our voice. We cannot count on how things were happening, and let our opinions disappear. We should be that change that we talk about, especially from the day we celebrate us, celebrate every women who are around us, be it our teacher from school, our moms, our sister in laws, or a stranger who is an innocent little girl waiting to be the fierce yet calm woman someday.
I agree men and women are different in many ways, and there is no debate about it, but we really need to buckle up, just not with our words or thoughts but our everyday actions to salute women every single day. Let them know that they are the best supermoms, and the way they take care of everything being so selfless is beautiful.