A reader had asked me to write on this topic many months back. I was procrastinating on the same since a long time. The delay was because of two reasons. Firstly, it would require me to time travel to a future me and secondly this blog was not going to be a normal one. It needed enough introspection and self-examination. Not to adieu further, the subject matter was a eulogy. A part of it could include the moments that I would cherish when I am at the last threshold of my life.
It needed a lot of rationalizing and thinking. There are some things that I have completed, and some, which are happening now, while some are in plan. It was difficult to assume on what will happen in half a century, what all situations will I be going through but most importantly is the question, will I be alive or not till the time that I am thinking of writing an eulogy for. Will my existence be as healthy as I imagine it to be? What would be the ideal summary of my life?
As I recap my life at the last minute of my existence, I would love to write a eulogy for myself as of today. I am ready for one, as I have been doing the things that I love each day, in some or the other form. The beauty of it has always been that nature of mine, which keeps thinking what if today being the last day of my life, how I would want to live. This is a strange yet blissful feeling. Since we all know how life is unpredictable, there is no harm in believing in it strongly.
So, instead of writing after years to come, let me write the circumstances that I have cherished as of today. The most important one in my life would be the times I have inspired, helped and my presence as a whole has made an impact in others life. It could be because of a few words, or a smile, or could be a long ended conversation. I would cherish the constancy that I have for different hobbies and interests. I would treasure being happy in the smallest pleasures of life. I love the fact that there is a small world in my mind, which is chill about any situation that comes in life. The heart, which does not stop dreaming and keeps that spark alive, the mind, which always has a gratitude note. Overall, I appreciate who I am, what I believe and aspire to become, a good human being. I value that I have understood the broader importance of my presence in the universe. Lastly, this would not have been possible without the continuous support of friends and family. So blessed with these amazing souls in my life.
“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”
― Bruce Lee
Can you relate to this quote? Do you think that we as humans expect a lot? Do you think that learning to accept than to expect will leave us with few disappointments? Do you think that living without any expectation is possible? Do you also think that we expect from our near ones and not from strangers? Do you think keeping an expectation on ourselves is healthy?
All these thoughts came to my mind, as I was doing a show on radio on expectation. While I was talking about this line, “Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed”, it made me realize that the quotes on expectations are mere words, and it is not practical to implement them in everyday life. The human nature does not permit us not to expect. We do and will expect, no matter how much we discuss over it. The nature to expect is rooted in us because of the way we have been raised. The level only increases as we stay around people and we live in a society.
We expect a stranger to be in a good behavior as much as we expect the person that we have hired for a service. These are two different situations. One that we do not encounter on an everyday basis and the other one is when the individual is bound to finish work. Our level of expectation might be different but we do expect.
We not only expect from a situation or people around us but our careers too. Imagine a scenario when you have worked hard, you would expect to be appreciated in the office. Expectations when fulfilled is a win- win situation for both parties. The only problem that comes is when people do not have the slightest idea of what they are expected of. Some individuals work to their best to fulfill the expectations of their seniors while some just work without any expectation, though, it is always nice to receive when you are not expecting.
While we discuss, we expect that the sapling that we have planted grow to be a big nice tree. We expect from ourselves, we challenge ourselves in many situations. There can be no two ways about expectation but the level of it can be lesser or more. Even saints expects us to follow their preaching. Their expectation is a bit different. They want people to follow their learning and the return here is not for themselves, but they do expect.
No matter how much we think not to expect, we just can’t help it but expect a lot from people around.
I overheard a conversation while waiting for my turn at the salon. Those ten minutes of talk got many questions in my mind. You all must be wondering what was the chat about and why was I interested. Firstly, I could not stop myself from eavesdropping because they were very loud; secondly, I had forgotten my earphones and thus, could not listen to music. Irrespective of that, the thought that got me thinking since yesterday was why are people not happy with the beautiful life they are blessed? How hard is it to cherish what they have? Why do they crib about moments when so much be done in 24 hours?
The beauty of life are the challenges that we face every day and handling different conditions. Isn’t it? Then, why was the woman who was in her mid-thirties so miserable that she thought there was no point in living? Why did she sound so sad? Why was it a problem for her to be taking care of her house and her own children? Had she forgotten that she was once a child and taken care of? Does she not need food to survive that she detest cooking for her family? What I analyzed from the whole scenario was that, these were not problems of life. At least, not the ones that one could crib for 15 minutes straight. There was negative space and I marveled how many people might be in that space as of today? This was just one person’s reflection on life; there might be many others like her.
Have we forgotten the amazing people around us that we call family and friends? Do we not realize that we have a body perfectly functioning? Do we not value the principles and values that we have embedded? Why are people adverse and pessimist about circumstances? Why do humans blame others for the decisions that they have made in their life? Everyone has difficulties and each individual goes through a rough patch, and sometimes, least expected. There is a solution for situations and the responsibility of finding the answer is on us. If it is not under our control, the best remedy is to leave it to fate. We can be happy that we tried our best to make the best of what we had.
Fortunate are the ones blessed with good health and wealth. If you are ever in that space, think about people who do not either have them, or have only one out of both. Think about the little kid, who plays carom and has that smile on his face, when both his hands have been lost because of electrocution. Think about that little girl who has never seen her parents, and does not know when she was born.
There are many complications, but we have the power to amend it. We need to get our magic started, as we are the magician for our own life.
P.S:- I think a lot of my positivism, happiness and understanding of life has come from THE KTM DRIVE.
All of us grew to the saying “Early to bed and early to rise makes a person healthy, wealthy and wise”. The first set of saying is very hard to follow by this generation; while many concentrate on the second part, which is being healthy. It is never too late to be mindful of being healthy.
Being fit and healthy is not only an hour of workout but also the impact of the food that we intake in the entire day. The number of calories that we consume is very important and so is the portion that we eat and the time of eating.
Working out is not only about losing weight, but it is about gaining strength, endurance and stamina. Being involved in a physical activity for more than five years, until now, I feel rejuvenated each day after an hour of intense exercise. The body feels light and it is the best way to start my day. Undoubtedly, it is a pain getting up in the mornings to exercise, but the result after an hour is worth it. Nothing better than a good morning workout to begin a refreshing day.
The workout could be anything that your body enjoys, could be a sport that one loves, or a new game that one wants to learn or it could be a combination of cardio and weights at the gymnasium. Some people run, some do Yoga, Pilates while some stay pumped up by taking up an aerobics class or Zumba. I think we owe some form of exercise to our body; it could be as lesser as fifteen minutes every day.
If we are trying to reduce weight, we need to burn more amount of calories then we are consuming, which means heavy workout sessions. One of the best workout form is kickboxing, and one of the best trainers that I have met is Eezy. The dedication for his trainees, the style of teaching, and the consistency of the level of workout is remarkable. He pushes one to the limit that one cannot imagine and the mixture of different combinations in an hour does not make the workout monotonous. There is a slight change in the form of exercise every day.
“One need not require fancy equipment’s in a gymnasium; rather the motivation is what is needed.” I like his saying and I have experienced this by myself. Using the staircase for pull-ups, chairs for power squats, he loves making the most of the things that is around. He also quotes that “People pay to eat more food with calories, and pay double to lose weight”. This is an irony that all of us are living with.
If you have been procrastinating that walk, or working out because of the cold, challenge yourself and you might just be surprised on how far you can go.