Each one of us is raised with values and principles. We have always been directed on what stands correct and incorrect. The steps as a child are set at home and the same is strictly followed at school. The rules have been made ages back and the tradition has been going on since then. We are revolutionizing, changing the pattern but there are some custom which have been the same. Just for example: Women leave their houses, and go to a new home after marriage making an unknown place their own. Not just home but they change their surname and take their husband’s last name. Why aren’t they allowed to keep their father’s last name forever?? Why aren’t the men leaving their houses and adapting in their new home??
This practice has become less with time and prevails in most of the countries. We need to accept the power of men in the modern times is higher. Even in the 21st century, the responsibility of both the sexes is differentiated after wedding. Especially in Asian countries, there is an extra accountability and expectation from the daughter in law of the family even if they are capable intellectually.
Who decides what is right or wrong? Who makes the rules and where are they inscribed? I believe it is just the belief which has been going on since a long time and we are afraid not to follow them. We want to reform the conventional practices and carry on with our transformed thoughts but are anxious if it would be accepted in the society or not. With the uncontrollable expenditure in weddings, exchange of monetary value from jewelry to gifts between two families (another form of dowry), and inviting the relatives who has never kept a relation till now, it seems illogical. But there we are attending the ceremonies half halfheartedly and as a requirement.
That was one perspective and there goes another. As kids our acts are calculated each time and categorized as– A naughty kid who is inquisitive and tries to explore more than required for his age. The right was always known, but there were no reasons given behind why is it the correct thing. We all have faith on the universal and omnipresent. We want to lead the path which Lord Buddha has enlightened us with. The various teachings in Mahabharata and Ramayana are etched in our hearts and we follow them. The phrases in the holy book “The Bhagwat Gita” teaches us so many things. The different religions follow their own morals.
Have we ever given a thought on various wrongs at those times, how Mahabharata is based on the fight between cousins for land and property? How Pandavas could bet their wife in a gamble?? Why was Lord Ram sent to exile for 14 years just for the reason that his younger brother would be given the throne?? I believe there is no right or wrong.There are many ways to see the same situation.