Relationship can get trickier at times and once it starts getting complicated there are two alternatives, some fade with time and some just end so quickly that there is no full stop. There is no conversation, which leaves the other perplexed and confused on what happened. I guess, it is always nice to have that talk when you end things, the presumptions and assumptions about different things do no good to anyone.

Imagine two individuals being in relationship for the first time, without any previous attachment, things would be much simpler. There would never be looking back, and the bond would be stronger as there would be nothing to hide, the lives being an open book, and nothing that you would feel not happy about. The firsts are always special and if you are with your first for the longest, life could not get any better. You learn with time but being each others first is the most special feeling.

There is a different charm of being in a relationship with someone who has been with many and wants to be with you for years. Even if you are not his/her first, you are being pampered and loved and the number just does not matter. Everyone has a history and as people grow in each relationship, the way he/she has been is because of those many relationships they have been in. So you should be happy that you found someone who can handle things better . Everyone has a baggage, who doesn’t is the question? You should be completely cool with it if you have your own baggage. But the faster you forget about your own and your partners past, the better your relationship will work out. You should not be comparing with your ex or talk to them about their exes time and again. If you do that, it surely is a relationship killer, unless you are in a very different comfort zone.

There are so many relationships which do not work after a decade of being together. As time passes by, some attachment stays the same and some don’t exist, again depending on the nature of the person. It surely becomes hard, and there are reasons for it not to work. When you enter into another bond, there is always a question which stays in other’s mind. It is hard not to accept that the same story will never be repeated. If you do not want that question to arise in your loved one, you got to move on completely and love them like your first as the past is gone and it’s better to leave them in the history.