Our perception towards life:*

Why do we think that we have forever? Why do we not comprehend that there is an end and life is more than what we are striving and living for? Why is it difficult for us to accept that we are not immortals?

We never think about this, as we are busy in our everyday life, as everything is running smoothly and we do not realize how swiftly time is passing. To think about it, how would we? We were not taught in our school nor did our academics have this topic. The Art of Living, which is the most important subject of life, is overshadowed. I personally would never understand unless I bid goodbye to my dad last year. There were lot of questions, emotions that did not have an answer but this happening surely gave a reality check about what life eventually comes to.

It taught everyone closer and me, value each day, to feel blessed about the small things in life, to spread more happiness, to do that little extra for someone, to help, to smile, to live. Unfortunately, we had to go through this to apprehend what it truly means to live each day to its fullest. The phrase “life is unpredictable” resonate and some situations when we keep finding the right time when there might be no more time started making more sense. This again does not mean that we do not hope for tomorrow, to welcome new relationships, and worry about what will happen because it definitely will. It is the unchangeable. We should dream, make plans and not worry about the end.

What we need to do is very simple. Break our long-term plans to short-term; execute them rather than only planning one long term. It is with these small ones, we will feel motivated and happy as and when it completes. We all have read the quote from Steve Jobs “If you live each day as if it were your last, someday you will be right”. Living might be difficult, but the feeling of it being the last, if it stands with us, changes many things, and having experienced that, I believe on it more. Our behavior to someone, our actions, and our decisions in life will not remain the same, and we will make more choices that are conscious.

In addition, we should not stress, as these smaller scenarios, which seem like the biggest one now might not be worth losing out time of dismay. With all of this we need to give gratitude to the healthy body that we have, and enjoy, do the things that our body permits for us to do now. This is for us to think that the day it stops being fit, all of the running around and being upset about the minutest of things, which could be the weather, wouldn’t really matter. The time that we think, we would be able to relish will no more be there.

The point here is if it would not matter the future then, it should not matter now, we need to live keeping the bigger picture in mind. The mantra is simple. It is for us to choose.

Goodbye in words:)

Been in K-Town for more than two decades,

Was out for six years, such was the phase,

Born and brought up at 1045, since start,

Unlimited memories, get together, family being the best part.

As I travel across 15000 kms to start a new life,

Super excited, all set for the new jive,

As I go across the ocean with these smiles,

Wouldn’t have been possible without the blessings from all sides.

Be it work, social, radio, writing or exploring,

Each activity and event has been inspiring,

Be it with the kids, friends, family and the ones who have seen me growing,

Each good bye has been overwhelming:)

500 days without you:*

And they said “this is how life goes on”

They did not realize our hearts are still naive and off,

When they said “he is everywhere with you”

Did they believe it or was it only for you?!

I do not have more questions nor seek any explanations,

In all of this I would quote “its not the same”

My heart still melts when I talk about that day,

Wish it was still a dream since I have so much to say.

Its not just me, but expressing on behalf of everyone,

Be it mom or dadaji, who haven’t smiled since you are gone,

Home can never be the same, ever again,

Cause you are the one, that rare gem.

Of all the walks, Popsy~

As I walk in the home garden, I remember the time,

You playing badminton, even if it was fifteen minutes to nine.

It would be the late hour, according to your routine,

Still you would be geared and ready for serves until thirteen.

As I walk to the back yard, to check on the veggies and greens,

It reminds me how fond of gardening you always would be,

Getting new sets of flower saplings and arranging them perfectly,

This was not just for outdoors but everything you did daily.

As I walk near your office, I think of the days,

When you would come home, only a call away,

Loved giving you my mock presentations, each while,

Because you were the first one to cheer us as we dialed.

As I will walk the most important and special day of my life,

I will miss you dearly, and want you to be there by my side,

My heart will only be searching you in the crowd,

Cause you are the only one who will be there, but will not be around.

As we celebrate Women’s day

On eighth of March, all our posts, messages start with celebration of Women’s day. I am sure if we are not in the habit of forwarding messages, we might have gotten one in the different groups that we are on the social media, be it WhatsApp, Viber, Facebook. The quotes shared are strong and the messages are beautiful. There is depth in the words and as we read, there is a different level of accolade in our minds. Some of us tend to ignore it while some of us love the fact that we celebrate this day and some of us are happy that it is a public holiday, a day off from work.

It is interesting to see various campaigns and events happening around different parts of the world but at the same time there are so many instances wherein we withhold women. It could be towards their right, on their thoughts and opinion, on their freedom. Some examples that I am going to list could be the ones that I have seen around me, in the Asian society, but these still prevail.

The fact that the family should have a boy child is prevalent in many homes and the daughter in law if not pressurized for another child, are still not spoken well of. Instead of rejoicing the capability of bearing a child and taking care of it for nine months in the womb, we are still under the impression that the girl child is ultimately going to leave the house and there would be no one to carry forward the family tree. Why cannot the daughters in the family lead it? This is during birth, the same perception lies when a person dies. How sons are accounted for during many rituals, and these are by default. It is heart – wrenching to know that daughters are not allowed during the last rites of their father, let go the scenario of doing it by themselves. How different does the society, treat a boy and a girl, of the person who loved them equally.

Similarly, the differentiation in attire, every day attributes that a women goes through when she is married and when she loses, her spouse is not correct. Her marital status should not affect the participation in the ceremonies, the respect, the inclusion on different other activities in the social order. This is where we need to change completely, not just with our views but also with our voice. We cannot count on how things were happening, and let our opinions disappear. We should be that change that we talk about, especially from the day we celebrate us, celebrate every women who are around us, be it our teacher from school, our moms, our sister in laws, or a stranger who is an innocent little girl waiting to be the fierce yet calm woman someday.

I agree men and women are different in many ways, and there is no debate about it, but we really need to buckle up, just not with our words or thoughts but our everyday actions to salute women every single day. Let them know that they are the best supermoms, and the way they take care of everything being so selfless is beautiful.

Time is powerful

As I roll my month calendar, as I think about the days spent, I am surprised that two months of 2018 is over. While giving it a thought, there were numerous things that happened past two months, yet I feel that the time just flew by and I cannot quantify my actions. I am sure most of us feel the same and in no time, we will be ready to welcome 2019, without even looking back and analyzing the past year. While we question our schedule and time, do we value time in true sense?

We think that we are being productive and making the most of time, but we need to understand that there is more than being in the present, there is more than just showing up. Easier said than done, is why we must practice, many aspects of strongly being in present. We must not be obsessed with having things go other than the way they are going. We need to let things be and it will resolve itself. Life happens. What we do not want to do is spoil this moment worrying about that moment. This way everyone loses, and most importantly, time is lost.

We should also appreciate what time makes us do, and how strong we become in some situations that we had never thought of. We could have a different approach to various circumstances and each attitude being ours, reflected according to the phase in life we are at. It is super interesting to observe the same person responding to similar situation in different ways. I feel the biggest continuous challenge that we are facing is the time. It has rewards and scores for our life in its own way but the sad bit is, it cannot be repeated once attempted. If we follow this mantra very actively in our day-to-day life, we might make our choices differently.

In addition, we need to realize that the time for us as humans is short, shorter than we imagine it to be. Our journey of life is going to be so different if we get too busy chasing down the extraordinary which on the bigger picture will matter by the end. What will matter is the joy that comes to us in ordinary moments.