Should a secret be kept in a relationship?


Each one of us has deep secrets that we want to keep where they are, not share it with the closest people. We do not want to speak about it because it is not on the priority nor significant. There are so many incidents, instances that we would not want to remember neither talk about. Some confessions that are not worth sharing should be given the silent treatment because nothing will change even if we unfold them.

Likewise, when people are in a relationship the bond gets stronger when communication and trust are on the highest level. If one asks should a secret be kept in a relationship, our immediate answer is NO. It applies to each one of us as we believe that a true relationship is when we can tell each other anything and everything. To think about it, there is no point saying things which are not important, and it would not affect the relationship as we exactly know what we are looking for and want. The situation can get a little bad when the presumption that it wouldn’t bother the other one goes wrong. Some people want to know each detail and they love to connect the dots. It really depends on the person that we have fallen in love with and how well do we know them.

To tell or not to tell is always an option that one has. If we have met the other person only twice, we need not share entire history or our personal life as an open book. Telling things too much and too soon can make us vulnerable. Relationships are always rocky in the beginning so why would we want to bare our heart to someone who many not be around for long. The trust dilemma is always there and keeping a few secrets is on everyone’s best interest. This means that we give in small doses and in appropriate times when we enter that comfort level.


There are times when the talk about the person whom we dated is initiated. The topic that we wish be avoided and hope that it does not get any specific further. Since we do not want to share a part of that, it concludes that sweet little lies stay with everyone. It won’t be lies for all but some talk that stay on “avoid this conversation” list. There are situations where certain attributes of ours are not accepted fondly by the person that we are with. This gets us on two circumstances, one is changing the person we are and compromising and doing things as the other one wants or without mentioning doing what we desire. These are not the act of deceiving but a win- win situation on both sides where we are playing it safe. There are so many small things which can go by not getting particular on and it all depends on the situation and value, mostly their consequences.If the cost of not being true hurts the other one, fall them apart, than we should not be in such relationship.

As said, a relationship with no arguments is one with lots of secret. Do you think its true??

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